Dealing with disappointment
When I started blogging two years ago the aim was to help me find a way, any way, to stay at home. I tried a few different things, took a few courses and found myself working as a Social Media Manager. I was able to leave my admin job and am now officially self employed. I thought I would start sharing some of the things I have learnt along the way.
Being self employed can often mean a lot of work pitching for little reward, even worse are the times when you are offered a job that never actually materialises.
- Don’t bank on it until you have banked it. I learnt quite quickly that people aren’t always true to their word. I got offered an increase in work and pay from a client that never materialised and had turned down work to accommodate the extra time it would take me. The lesson I learnt was that it would have been better to be crazy busy for one month than the reality of not having enough. Now, until I have actually started a job and banked my first invoice, I don’t take anything for granted.
- Work comes and work goes. It is always worth remembering that for as many disappointments you face, there will be great things too. After one of my clients lost some of their work they had to lose me, things happen, then randomly, months later, I got an email from someone who had worked with my client and she had recommended me to them and I got a nice little bundle of work I wasn’t expecting.
- Sometimes you’ll just never know. So you’ve pitched, interviewed, built a rapor and won a job, all you are waiting for is a start date. You wait, you drop them a little email, you wait some more, you try to call and get voicemail and eventually you just have to give up. Sometimes things just aren’t meant to be, nine times out of ten you’ll know why, I’ve been told that I’m not a great fit, that they can get it cheaper elsewhere and every other polite let down inbetween, but sometimes you’ll just never get the feedback and you have to accept that. These can be the hardest to deal with, I’d always rather just be told than left hanging.
- Stability can be hard to come by. I have a couple of long term ‘stable’ clients, but I am under no form of contract and me services may not be required at any given moment. This is just part of my lifestyle now, but this is both worrying and disappointing to my husband, don’t get me wrong I’m often more than a little nervous too. What I have to remember is that my change of work and becoming self employed effects ore than just me and what he needs to remember is that I need a chance to get established.
- You’ll sometimes find yourself working for free. OK so I’m not going to agree to a job without agreeing to my pay, but that time running up to the negotiations, the interviews, the proposals, the pitches, the research all that time is unpaid and there is nothing more demoralising than putting in all that effort to not get anything out of it. This is why the occasional day off to relax and have fun with your family is important, if you don’t take a break from it you will go crazy.
If you work from home do find the same things? Any tips?