This plus that equals…. how I manage stress
Here’s the latest instalment in my series of posts all about what makes our lives here at home tick. This week I’ve been thinking a lot about how I handle my stress and anxiety.
I’m actually doing really well at the moment, but I’ve been trying to help someone who isn’t. Having been there and done that, I’m fully aware that when you are in the throws of it no one can actually tell you anything that will help, but maybe, just maybe, one of these little coping techniques might help someone else.
Blog, journal, scrap of paper I throw away or email I delete. The physical act of writing down my thoughts, however jumbled, helps me unpick them and focus on what is really bothering me. Just the act of writing it down, getting it out of my head, lifts a bit of the burden.
I make a point of writing a daily gratitude journal, thanks to my Calm book for the inspiration. Each day I jot down one thing that made me feel calm, one thing that I am grateful for and what my three highlights from the day were . I then might also have a bit of a rant, but I will have focused on some good things too.
I try to do this everyday if I can, even if it’s only for a couple of minutes.
It really is very helpful, just for so many reasons. Not least that it is a few silent minutes I take for MYSELF everyday. Those few minutes meditating may be the only minutes I have done something just for me that day.
Of course it helps focus the mind and has so many other beneficial qualities. I personally enjoy guided meditation, partly because I still find it very difficult, but also because I can pick a meditation to help with a specific issue or feeling from that day.
This has been my go to product for so many years now. Rescue Remedy has got me through exams, new jobs, the aftermath of a car accident and just generally rough days.
Recently they have developed more and more products. I love the chewing gum and keep it in my handbag, a really easy and subtle way to use it. The lockets are good too, sometimes I have one whilst I’m meditating, but again these are a great handbag product.
My favourite products though are the classic Rescue Remedy liquid, a few drops straight on the tongue or sipped in a glass of water, will always be the most comforting way for me to start to unwind. The there is the Rescue Plus Effervescent Tablets, great for the mornings, just to boost your day. It combines the benefits of Rescue with energy boosting vitamins, so after a night of little to no sleep it’s the best way for me to start the day.
Walking and cycling are my two favourite ways to de-stress. What is most important though is being outside. I don’t have to be alone, depending on the level of anxiety I’m dealing with.
Sometimes I just need to be alone, get a decent distance from home and hopefully get into a good rhythm, because for me it is not only the fresh air, but the simple rhythm of my steps that helps to ease my mind.
If a family walk or cycle ride is the only thing that will work, then that will have to do, but it is better than nothing and often just enough.
Just being outdoors makes me feel better.
For me, actually talking to someone is an absolute last resort. Maybe that’s why I find writing so therapeutic. There is o two ways about it though, when I get bad, really bad. Finding someone to talk to is really helpful. I’ve plenty of friends who are perfect, my husband ain’t bad either.
Sometimes a complete stranger is the way forward though. There are lots of people out there who are incredibly well trained and so helpful. Never, dismiss talking to someone, never.
What little things do you kike to treat yourself to? I could do with some new treat ideas 🙂
Finally, I’m linking up with #TheBabyFormula, #TwinklyTuesday and #fortheloveofBLOG
Disclosure – I received my Rescue Samples in exchange for my thoughts, however, I was planning on including them regardless as I have genuinely been using them for years.