This plus that equals…. How I Stay Positive
Here’s the latest instalment in my series of posts all about what makes our lives here at home tick. This week is all about what I do to stay positive. This isn’t something that comes naturally to me, but it is something I have actively been working on this year. Despite finding it difficult at times I believe it is worth while and I feel so much happier for it, so I thought I’d share my tips with you.
Shit happens and you’re going to feel rubbish. I give myself time to feel it, all of the awful self doubting, negative thoughts. I even write it down in my journal. Then I get over it, best I can. There’s no point pretending it didn’t happen or I am always positive and happy. I am not. Equally there is no point dwelling on it and being negative 24/7, it serves no purpose other than to make you feel worse and drag down those around you. So give yourself 15 minutes, a few hours, a day, hell even a week if that’s what you need. But verbalise it, stick to it, then get on with life.
Walking or cycling
If I’m ever struggling with a decision, having a bad day, feeling stressed, pressured, unhappy or generally negative. I get outside. Rain or shine. A 30 minute cycle or walk will have me feeling better. It gives me time to think and straighten my head. It gives me a bit of quiet time, even if I’m with other people, I can’t quite explain that one. I will feel the stress physically lifting from my shoulders.
Anyone who reads my blog regularly will have seen my series ‘Feeling Calm’ and you’ll know I keep a gratitude journal. Each night, regardless of how rubbish my day may have been I write down one thing that made me feel calm that day, one thing I am grateful for and my three highlights from the day. Being able to do this everyday and pulling something positive from a day, however bad, really helps keep things in perspective. Some days the only positives are that I had a nice lunch, my son went to bed easily and I had a shower, but you know what, they are all good things.
I am very choosy about who I am friends with. You really should be. My friends are my lifeline. My rocks. When the chips are down my friends are always there for me. A quick message, call or catch up and they’ll soon knock me into shape. Give me a boost. Or just plain distract me for a few hours. I have thinned out my group of friends, removing any that do not bring me joy and happiness. If someone in your life is constantly pulling you down and making you feel bad about your choices then quite frankly you don’t need them.
A flower. Good stationery. Only using sparkly tape. I am surrounded by little things that are pretty. That make me smile. Life is too short for anything else. When I wake up in the morning the first things I see are one of our wedding photos in a lovely frame and a pretty pastel owl money bank. My desk is a shabby chic haven. My chores list is stuck to the fridge with a different Washi tape each week. I only have Yankee Candle air fresheners in the car. My kitchen is filled with plants. Even if it is only something small like my favourite scent in the car, or a random pom pom on a pencil it’s hard not to smile.
I also meditate, make use of essential oils as scent is a great mood lifter, have dedicated ‘happy’ playlists in my Goggle Music and a whole host of other little things but these are the main ways I stay positive. It may sound easy, but it isn’t. For me though, it is worth it.
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