this-plus-that-equals How I stay positive

This Plus That Equals…. How I Stay Positive

This plus that equals…. How I Stay Positive

Here’s the latest instalment in my series of posts all about what makes our lives here at home tick. This week is all about what I do to stay positive. This isn’t something that comes naturally to me, but it is something I have actively been working on this year. Despite finding it difficult at times I believe it is worth while and I feel so much happier for it, so I thought I’d share my tips with you.

Feeling lighter
It’s not all balloons and happiness all of the time

Own it

Shit happens and you’re going to feel rubbish. I give myself time to feel it, all of the awful self doubting, negative thoughts. I even write it down in my journal. Then I get over it, best I can. There’s no point pretending it didn’t happen or I am always positive and happy. I am not. Equally there is no point dwelling on it and being negative 24/7, it serves no purpose other than to make you feel worse and drag down those around you. So give yourself 15 minutes, a few hours, a day, hell even a week if that’s what you need. But verbalise it, stick to it, then get on with life.

Exploring the woods
Getting out and about helps us all

Walking or cycling

If I’m ever struggling with a decision, having a bad day, feeling stressed, pressured, unhappy or generally negative. I get outside. Rain or shine. A 30 minute cycle or walk will have me feeling better. It gives me time to think and straighten my head. It gives me a bit of quiet time, even if I’m with other people, I can’t quite explain that one. I will feel the stress physically lifting from my shoulders.

Feeling Calm 32
Feeling Calm – kepping a gratitude journal is so helpful

Be grateful

Anyone who reads my blog regularly will have seen my series ‘Feeling Calm’ and you’ll know I keep a gratitude journal. Each night, regardless of how rubbish my day may have been I write down one thing that made me feel calm that day, one thing I am grateful for and my three highlights from the day. Being able to do this everyday and pulling something positive from a day, however bad, really helps keep things in perspective. Some days the only positives are that I had a nice lunch, my son went to bed easily and I had a shower, but you know what, they are all good things.

We were silly with Dunelm
Says it all really, good friends are worth their weight in gold


I am very choosy about who I am friends with. You really should be. My friends are my lifeline. My rocks. When the chips are down my friends are always there for me. A quick message, call or catch up and they’ll soon knock me into shape. Give me a boost. Or just plain distract me for a few hours. I have thinned out my group of friends, removing any that do not bring me joy and happiness. If someone in your life is constantly pulling you down and making you feel bad about your choices then quite frankly you don’t need them.

Pretty flowers in the garden
Pretty flowers in the garden

Pretty things

A flower. Good stationery. Only using sparkly tape. I am surrounded by little things that are pretty. That make me smile. Life is too short for anything else. When I wake up in the morning the first things I see are one of our wedding photos in a lovely frame and a pretty pastel owl money bank. My desk is a shabby chic haven. My chores list is stuck to the fridge with a different Washi tape each week. I only have Yankee Candle air fresheners in the car. My kitchen is filled with plants. Even if it is only something small like my favourite scent in the car, or a random pom pom on a pencil it’s hard not to smile.

Cheesy Smiles!
Cheesy Smiles!


I also meditate, make use of essential oils as scent is a great mood lifter, have dedicated ‘happy’ playlists in my Goggle Music and a whole host of other little things but these are the main ways I stay positive. It may sound easy, but it isn’t. For me though, it is worth it.

Finally, I’m linking up with #TheBabyFormula, #TwinklyTuesday and #fortheloveofBLOG

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14 thoughts on “This Plus That Equals…. How I Stay Positive”

  1. Good advice, especially owning the difficulties. Not letting the bad stuff drag you down is really important in life, and it really does take effort some times!

  2. I agree on the friends part. I have two really good friends who have really helped me through a bad time. They are always there to cheer me up as I am for them. And who doesn’t feel happy when they have sparkly tape lol.
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    1. I’ve got two really close friends as well. I would rather just have a few who are epic, than loads who aren’t. Sparkly tape really does make me happy!!

  3. I love your attitude and positivity is something that I am trying to focus on right now. I have a few health issues going on and it’s quite hard to remain positive but it is so important to keep going. I think you’re so right about choosing your friends wisely, for me that’ the main thing that I have learned this last two years, good friends will always keep you positive! #fortheloveofBLOG

    1. It is not easy to be positive, that’s for sure. Good friends are worth their weight in gold. I love all my friends dearly. They are my rocks. I hope you get everything sorted and feel good soon. Big hugs. xx

  4. Love your attitude – I need to take a leaf out of your book. A pretty notebook or a bunch of flowers can really brighten your day, #fortheloveofblog

  5. Great post. It’s the little things that lift me when I feel a bit poorly or crap, fresh bed sheets, a shower and hair wash, flowers, the gym definitely helps massively. It’s all about getting in a good frame of mind and banishing negativity. #twinklytuesday

  6. Staying positive and cheerful is so hard some day, and I think the thing that helps me the most is thinking of all God’s blessings and how He is so merciful to me. <3 I also love just being grateful… It's so wonderful. #twinklytuesday!

    1. There are certainly days that are far more trying than others. I always think it must be lovely to have a faith that you can turn to. Finding something everyday to be grateful for is a big part of what keeps me positive. Thank you so much for stopping by x

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