This plus that equals…. perfect moments
Here’s the latest instalment in my series of posts all about what makes our lives here at home tick. This week is all about some of the very special moments L and I have had recently and what I think makes them perfect.
I think it is all down to the lack of expectation but a lot of our most perfect days are completely unplanned.
This morning I randomly googled cinema times and saw that Thomas and Friends was showing at 9.20am. So shoved the kid out the door, made the most of the near empty car parks and the empty cinema, it was literally just the two of us, and we had a blast.
When I think about it a lot of the great days we have are completely unplanned like this. The day L said after lunch he wanted to go to the beach, so we went. Or the day I thought I had an opticians appointment and we went to find some Go Go Hares. No real thought went into these days and they were perfect.
I hadn’t built them up in my head though, so I was never going to be let down.
Any day that either starts after a good night of sleep for both the child and myself is going to be a pretty good one.
A day that involves a nap, again for either party, well that is 100% going to be epic.
If I am tired my temper is so short, I have no patience and I’ll admit I’m utterly unreasonable, the kid is the same, only concentrated into a smaller body and therefore way more rage filled.
Some of our most special moments have been so simple, curling up on the sofa together to watch a movie and both ending up asleep. I’ll never forget the day I woke up to find that L had tucked me in and was sitting happily next to me just watching his film. Perfect.
I know this sounds simple, but in reality it can be hard. Special moments are only spencial when you notice them. So it’s not just about being together it’s about being present.
I’ll put my hand up and say I’m to easily distracted by my phone, there’s always work to be done, an email to be answered, social to be posted, pictures to be take, messages to respond to.
L hate it when I have to work when we’re together, though I think now he understands it at least.
On the flip side that means that when I’m not working, when I’ve put my phone away, when we are really talking, playing and connecting, whatever we are doing, those simple moments can end up being the best moments.
OK, I know I said most of our best moments are unplanned and I still hold to that, but some of our most perfect moments have most definitely been planned and planned hard.
Taking him to Chessington last year for his birthday was certainly planned, booking the giraffe room, planned. Packing all his wrapped presents and balloons, banners and decorations, planned!
His face when he realised what we had done, perfect!
It wasn’t something he had asked for, he certainly wasn’t expecting it, being able to surprise him with something so special was just priceless and we had a great weekend.
Picking him up from nursery with a packed suitcase for a weekend on the Broads. Not telling him we were going to be Super Wings Ambassadors for the summer. Arranging to meet his new friend at the park. All these special little surprises have led to absolutely perfectly moments.
In the middle of the night
Not always in the middle of the night, but often, it is the quiet moments. The moments when he will unexpectedly come in for a cuddle or say something hilarious, or sweet, or oddly insightful.
These tiny little moments that won;t last long enough, these are my perfect moments.
When he crawls into bed in the middle of the night after a bad dream but then grabs my arm and wraps it round him, I couldn’t care less that I’m hot, uncomfortable and contorted into a shape that shouldn’t be possible. What matters is the tickle of his hair against my cheek and the weight of his body in my arms.
When I go to tuck him in at night and find him snuggled up with the cat both of them cute as could be. When during what I think is the worst day out ever, he looks up at me and says, ‘I’m having the best day ever Mummy, thank you’. When he asks me to sit in his room and work until he falls asleep. When he doesn’t want to disturb us but needs to be near so makes a nest on the floor next to the bed.
These quiet, almost silent moments, these moments of such innocence are perfect to me.
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