This plus that equals…. the power of positive
Here’s the latest instalment in my series of posts all about what makes our lives here at home tick. This week is all about the power of positive. Life is all about the choices you make, I believe a bit of positivity goes further than just your mood but changes everything, so I choose positivity.
A Bad Day
Yesterday the kid was sick on our bed and murdered my childhood bear (long story, but he now has very little stuffing in is head). I cried as I was writing thank you cards to his nursery as it’s his last week. On the way into bed I put my foot in some missed vomit, oh and my period started.
It would be fair to say yesterday was a bad day.
But it wasn’t. Yesterday was a great day with some bad moments, albeit a few more bad moments than usual. Yesterday L and had an impromptu visit to the playground, saw a family of baby ducks, we stopped for hot chocolate and cake at the bus cafe and you’ve got to love a cafe in a bus. We were productive and emptied his whole room ready for decorating and we cuddled and had some really lovely moments.
If given the choice, what parts of yesterday would you remember? Well I do have the choice, so guess what? Yesterday was a good day.
Calm and Wellbeing
When I stop focusing on the positive. When I allow the negative to take over and seem in, which trust me, I do. I am human after all. When I forget about the power of positivity all sense of calm, all focus and all my general and hard fought for well being vanishes.
It is not easy always finding the best in a situation, it can be really flipping hard to find the best in people sometimes. But it is worth all that hard work for my general sense of calm and happiness.
The best things in life are things you fight the hardest for.
Be the Leader
I know what it is like to be surrounded by people who are not positive. We all know at least one person who can only see the bad in life.
In my own personal circle I don’t have many of those people because naturally we aren’t the most compatible, so I’m never going to be besties with you if you can’t see the good in life. It’s harder with family, you don’t get to choose them after all, but you do get to choose how much time you spend with them.
The hardest for me has always been colleagues, I have no choice over who they are or how much time I spend with them. I have seen first hand how having someone who does nothing other than complain about work can drag a whole team of people down. But whilst negativity breeds negativity and misery loves nothing better than company, you always have a choice to make and you can be the leader, you can be the shining light of positivity.
People may or may not join you, but you will feel better for it and I would put money on others following as it’s always nicer to be happy than sad.
Good Things Happen
I’m not completely naive, I know that obscenely good things happen to some down right dreadful people and that awful things happen to the best of people.
But on a smaller scale I believe the more positive you are the more good things will happen to you.
This is partly because you will actually notice them, so it is not that more good things will come your way because you are positive, but because you are positive you are more likely to see the good that’s coming your way. L’s bedroom draws broke the other day, a real pain, but the excuse I had needed to re-do his bedroom. He’ll have a big boy room ready to start school, perfect and to be fair, something we had put off for ages. For me this is really exciting. For husb, it is an expense and a real drain on our already limited time. Neither of us are wrong, but the exact same situation is a good thing for me yet not for him. It’s a choice.
It’s more than just that though, ages ago we had ordered a pizza and they got our order wrong, I called and they remedied it. But they didn’t takeaway the incorrect food, the left us with it, it was of no use to them. So we were left with more food then we could eat, my choice was to give it the neighbour who was always happy and had a smile and a wave for us, or knock on the doors of some other neighbours who had never mustered a smile. Guess where it went.
It’s a Choice
have actively chosen to see the best in life. I truly believe that my choice to be grateful, to be positive and to be present and mindful has improved my life immeasurably.
It’s not a choice everyone wants to make.
I choose to be positive and focus on the good because otherwise I might actually drown. My life isn’t perfect, it’s not all happy and perfect, but the good bits are really good and they do outweigh the bad so that’s my choice. I choose positive.
Finally, I’m linking up with #TwinklyTuesday, #Blogstravaganza, #StayClassyMama and #fortheloveofBLOG
It’s so easy to be worn down by the negatives instead of focusing on the positives. Thanks for linking up with #stayclassymama
They are easier to focus on and can suck you in really easily x
Lovely post and sometimes seeing the positive can alternative how you feel on the day X #stayclassymama
To have a day like that and put a positive spin on it? You’re a saint! Thank you for the reminder and encouragement! If we can all put this much of a spin on each day, the world would be a much happier place!
#StayClassyMama
Ha ha ha. I try, trust me, in the moment I didn’t feel at all positive but I write a journal each day and always list three things that made me happy and it reminds me that overall life is better than it is bad.
It is a choice! And one I have chosen too! It sure makes things a lot easier… no pollyanna, but realistically positive with a keen perspective. Great post! #stayclassymama
We really do need positivity in our lives and if that means buying a great book that helps Well that’s fine too.
There are so many fab books about positivity. I’ve found a few I’ve enjoyed.
I really love this. I’m trying hard to be positive and see the best in situations – my husband and I are working towards this together. You’re right – better to focus on the good things x #TwinklyTuesday
It can be such hard work at times but I’ve found it comes easier to me now. It’s a choice and I choose to see the good, even if it’s a bit sketchy at times! Today the child took his eye rolling sass to a new level but he did it in the garden so at least I was in the sun!
Good post. Yesterday I unravelled a bit – frustration and bad luck overwhelming me, but I did manage to pick myself up and be cheery at dinner with friends. I guess it’s okay to sink down as long as you’re quick to bounce back….#TwinklyTuesday
Oh definitely. You need to feel it. I had a good cry yesterday, seeing your childhood bear unstuffed will do that to you, standing in vomit will finish you but I can refill the bear and I was vomit free after a shower. I hope your luck changes, hugs!