This plus that equals…. Working Away

Here’s the latest instalment in my series of posts all about what makes our lives here at home tick. This week is all about the very real potential that husb will be working away from home during the week. Nothing is set in stone yet, in fact, it may not even happen. This really is a bit of a mind dump. Hopefully I’ll sort out how I’m feeling as I type.

Do we have a choice?

Husb earns the most money. His job is the one that keeps us financially stable. It’s a new job he’s only been doing for just over a year, one he’s still learning and one that has great potential by means of a career path.

His job is project based and the local project he has been working on has nearly finished. If he doesn’t move to another project all the ‘spaces’ may be filled and then he will be made redundant.

There are no other local projects, so he would be looking at a daily commute of 2 hours each way or staying away Monday night to Thursday night, travelling home when he finishes on Friday.

I don’t really see another choice.

Others manage

So many other people manage this situation. It is their norm. Then there are those who work offshore and are gone for weeks at a time. Or those in the military when it can be months at a time.

So many other people handle this I’m not even sure why I’m worrying. In fact I’m not even sure I am worrying. I know I will be fine. I know we will manage, just like everyone else in our situation. It just seems really big.

It will be hard on L

L, like most children, is a creature of habit. He likes his routines and hates them being messed with. He’s used to seeing his Daddy every day and I think he will struggle when he can’t.

He doesn’t get much quality time during the week though. Maybe 20 minutes in the morning and a little longer in the evening, but literally only getting his teeth brushed and a bedtime story. So he won’t actually be missing out on much, not really. Especially as we can still video chat the bedtime story.

It’s just a massive change for him to get used to not long before he’ll be starting school which is another giant change.

I do worry a lot about how he’ll handle it.

It’s not forever

It really won’t be forever. We know that. The nature of his work means almost constant change and new projects pop up all the time.

In his business it is also not at all uncommon to change employers regularly to go where the work is, so that isn’t an issue either.

He just needs a little more experience and for there to be a local opportunity and we’ll be back to normal again.

Am I OK with it?

I think I am. It’s not like I have a choice and it’s also not me who is the most affected. I’ll still be at home with all my creature comforts. I’ll still get to see L all the time and ultimately not much at all will change for me.

It will affect husb the most as he’ll be away, staying somewhere strange and living in limbo. He needs to be OK with it but I feel like the decision is being left to me.

If anything I worry that I’m too OK with it. I keep thinking about all those free evenings I’ll have to blog and how much less housework there will be. I guess at the moment I’m not treating it as a serious prospect because it might not actually happen and I’m not one for expending a lot of energy worrying about something that may not actually be.

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